I haven’t even been married a week, and already I would do anything to protect my marriage. When Eddie and I got married, we made a commitment to each other, before God, to be wed for life. Marriage isn’t just a union, but it’s a promise to ourselves and to God to stay together. At least that’s how I understood it.
But apparently that isn’t the case for one Australian couple.
Nick and Sarah Jensen, a straight couple (pictured above) have vowed to get divorced if marriage equality becomes the law for the land down under.
The couple states that they are happily married, and are going to get divorced in protest of the growing acceptance of gay marriage in their country.
This really irks me. It irks me because they are willing to throw away their marriage, and live in sin, all because they are so gravely unable to accept that what I have with my husband is the same as what they have.
Immediately after Eddie’s and my wedding ceremony, we were eating with my best friend and close family. My best friend stated that in Arizona there is such a thing as a covenant marriage. Arizona is only one of three states that provide this sort of marriage, but basically it makes divorce harder. It requires counseling before divorce, and it requires your church to be involved. Eddie and I had heard of this before and we knew what it was. We even considered it, but with so few churches welcoming gays, we opted for a simple, standard, ceremony and marriage license.
But the idea was nice. It was nice because both Eddie and I strongly feel that regardless of how difficult things may get, both people in a marriage need to be willing to make it work. If counseling is required to make a marriage work, then by all means, counseling should be one of the steps taken.
In 2006, and again in 2008, while I fought the gay marriage bans that Arizona faced, I didn’t fight to water down marriage, I fought to be included in the sanctity that is marriage. While I don’t think churches should be forced to preform marriage ceremonies they don’t want to, I wanted the churches that wanted to preform marriage ceremonies of all types to be welcomed to do so.
It’s really quite simple, as a gay man, I wanted the commitment of marriage to include me.
Rather that say it’s “just a piece of paper” or accept that I will never be able to get marriage, I chose to do something about it, because I strongly believe that marriage is a sacred thing – a sacred thing I should be welcomed to enjoy freely, just like the Jensens.
It irks me that the Jensens is that they are willing to disregard the commitment they made for each other. They are willing to dispose of the sanctity of marriage, not because they are unhappy, but because they are bigots. That’s problematic to me.
I do not understand how it is at all acceptable that these people not be called out on the fact that they are destroying the sanctity of marriage out of hate, when Eddie and I have chose to uphold that same sanctity of marriage by getting getting married ourselves.
(Additional Note: Earlier when I stated that Eddie’s and my marriage is the same as the Jensens, I was mistaken; while Eddie and I would do anything to protect our marriage, the Jensens are using gays as an excuse to end there commitment to each other and to God.)